So, here goes: I’ve never finished writing a novel. Ever.
I’ve never even gotten close.
(You can’t tell, but I just let out a massive exhale. This is the moment in “Confessions Part II” when Usher finally tells his girlfriend about the affair, and it just feels so good. Except maybe it feels better for me than it did for Usher.)
In the past, I've blamed my inability to finish a novel on perfectionism, which makes total sense if you ignore the fact that I'm not a perfectionist about any other aspect of my life. And, wait a second, how is it that I went to a performing arts high school for four years and could consistently crank out short stories and sonnets and novellas for my portfolios every six weeks? Maybe what I wrote wasn't great, but first drafts never are. At least I had a first draft, right?
If it wasn't perfectionism, then surely my problem is that I'm a slow writer. Unless you count that time I wrote almost 30,000 words in a matter of weeks. Still, whenever NaNoWriMo rolls around, I tell myself that this time I'll do it, before quitting by day ten and saying, "I just can't write like this!" But who says I can't?
I guess I've sort of reached a point where I know there's something blocking me from writing, but I just can't figure out what.
Though I think I have a hunch....
See, I have anxiety. Like, the type of anxiety that interferes with your social life and steals away your ability to concentrate and makes you want to throw up every waking hour of the day. I've always been what my mother would call a worrier, but this past year, this worrying morphed into a Very Big Problem.
I've struggled with anxiety since ninth grade, but it has never been as bad as it is right now. It basically ruined my sophomore year of college, it's on the verge of ruining my summer, and I'm starting to think that it's ruining my writing. Or maybe it's just ruining my perception of my writing.
Either way, I'm almost positive that my anxiety is the culprit, and at this very moment, I'm Nancy Drew having just figured out the mystery, but the suspect is still at large and I only have so many leads left to follow.
I want to clarify: I do think, to an extent, that anxiety about my writing is what's holding me back. I'm obsessed with looking at books that are published now and seeing how something I might write could fit into the market, and then I worry that the market for character-driven contemporary YA will be down by the time I want to query an agent and hopefully publish, and then I start to worry about which agent is right for me (I seriously have more than 30 different agents bookmarked to represent a book I haven't finished), and then, and then---you get the picture.
It's something I understand is irrational, and also a little obsessive. Like, I'm twenty years old. I have plenty of time to write a novel, and find representation for it, and publish it. It's easy to get wrapped up in the fantasy of being a published author, and even easier to get wrapped up in the fear that you're so, so far from that goal.
But this writing-related anxiety is just a subplot.
I wish it was possible for me to sit down in front of my laptop, open up a blank document, and type out the story that's been finished in my head for almost two years. But there's a disconnect between what's inside and what comes out. Mainly in that nothing ends up coming out most days, which has caused me to develop a major dislike (I wouldn't call it hatred -- yet) for the story I want to write.
But what has this story done wrong other than existing in a head that can't figure out how to tell it?
There are a lot of thoughts competing for attention inside my brain, and I have a massively hard time streamlining them. And even when I write, when I should, theoretically, be able to lose myself, the thoughts are still there, humming in my head, like static. It's a noise I can't ignore, and suddenly this time I've devoted to writing turns into a time when I'm making myself feel sick because I'm so nervous and upset, except I don't know what about.
I want to write so badly. When I let myself think about the future, I imagine that my books will be good--but, more so, I imagine that my readers will relate to them in a way that can change their lives. That's what reading YA did for me, and I'd be honored if I could pay it forward.
But I'm not in a place where I can do that right now. I sometimes try to comfort myself after my latest attempt at writing has ended with me crying into a bag of gluten-free pretzels by saying that this is for the best. That the timing isn't right, that there's a reason for this.
This doesn't stop me from wishing the time was right, or wishing that I could get this story out of my head and on to paper, even if it sucks.
I know it's not that easy. None of this is. But I'm taking every measure I can to make sure I manage this anxiety and am in a better place. I'm excited for the day when this doesn't feel so hard anymore. I'm excited for the day when the blank page in front of me isn't as daunting as it seems.
Maybe by then I can find my words.